You Fear Yourself More Than Actual Threats

We fear ourselves more than actual threats

If we can remember this simple fact of life, you have survived 100% of everything you have been through. Chances are, for those who have been stuck in trauma for years, you have already overcome that which you fear the most… externally.

The truth of the matter is that we are great at becoming who we need to be when the time calls for it. The issue resides in maintaining that confidence and strength that arise in those moments consistently as more often than not, we see the world through distorted lenses.

Allow yourself to ask this question… when I am alone, can I actively be comfortable with my thoughts as they come, or do I create distractions that occupy my mind in so that I do not have to think about the real me?

One of the most common things I hear is that “I don’t like the thoughts I have when I am alone”, you are afraid of yourself, the one thing that you truly cannot run away from. It is true that you can bypass, suppress and distract yourself from these thoughts but it will eventually surface in some way or another. The longer you resist who you are the stronger these fearful thoughts become.

You are not your thoughts; you are simply the observer of such.
When you learn to listen to your thoughts and not judge them, you will stop judging yourself based off others expectations or failures.
The more you fear yourself, the more you will fear others. Fear is the absence of knowing what you will do in a situation if such were to occur.

Check your coat in at the door and sit with your fears. Instead of living at the worst-case scenario created in your mind that you’ve already accepted as your “fate,” courageously work backwards in in real time.

Most people would say “if I could go back and change X, I would” but how often do we consider the truth that if I were to do X differently today, then my future will change creating which I desire?”

Love yourself, don’t fear yourself